With around one in five New Zealanders experiencing challenges with their mental health, chances are you know someone who is having a difficult time? Maybe this person is a close friend or member of your whānau. If you’re struggling to know how to support them, you’re not alone. 

That’s why Just a Thought has put together this helpful resource which provides simple suggestions on how to support someone experiencing emotional distress.  

What to do if your friend/family member won’t talk to you

Try not to take this personally. It could be that they just don’t want to worry you. Stay open and let them know you’re there for them. It may also be helpful to give them information about organisations or people they can reach out to.

Useful organisations and resources 

While it may feel difficult for your friend or loved one to talk with you, they may find it easier talking in confidence to a trained counsellor or volunteer for support and advice. You can find a list of helpful numbers on the Just a Thought website.

You could also suggest they try one of Just a Thought’s online therapy courses. They’re free and can be accessed anytime, from anywhere, all that is needed is a connection to the internet and a mobile or desktop device: https://www.justathought.co.nz/ 

Support for yourself

Getting advice and support for yourself is vital so you can look after your wellbeing and continue to be there for your friend or loved one. The following websites may be of help:

https://supportingfamilies.org.nz/ 

https://www.mentalhealth.org.nz/get-help/in-crisis/worried-about-someone/